Playing the game of love

Love. Is it a game of chess that you can win through calculated moves? It's flabbergasting the rate at which many are turning into love-doctors with 'magical' tips that they claim will win you the most beautiful and intelligent woman when followed to the letter.

Can the game of love be played like chess?

"Mehn, you need to be mean; don't give her vibes about how crazy you're about her; you need to play the game," I overheard a youngster telling another as they bounced in their sagging jeans and Timberland boots at Makerere University. He was speaking with life like a hiphop beat. It was a quiet Sunday evening, and I quickened my pace to catch all the echoes.

"But I can't help myself," said the other boy, with vulnerable sincerity.

"I know. That chick is da bomb! But bruh, it's all about game. You've shown her too much interest. Now she's beginning to feel good on you. That's why she ignores your calls except when she needs your dime. I want you to withdraw for like a month, and be like you don't care and see what happens."

There was momentary silence, like the besotted teen was ruminating on what had just been said. The 'love doctor' continued, "You have to make her fall for you indirectly and that's not by showing too much interest. Chicks don't dig dudes who appear needy because when you chase her much you appear that way. You gotta be the bad boy in this game. Bad boys show women they don't give a damn even when they freakin' do! When you stop chasing; she will get concerned; she will be shaken by your independence. Chicks like independent guys. Independence to them isn't about the fat bank account, or your brother's freaking Range Rover..."

I would have loved to hear more, but they entered Mitchell Hall, and I continued down to Wandegeya, wondering if the smitten teen will take the advice and if it will work.