Let me put it in more graphic terms. The tortoise is not
defined by its cracked shell but the humble harmless creature on the inside.
And just as the tortoise shell is not the tortoise, the human body is not the
real human being but a mere "designer shell", to use the words of
Christian rapper Renee Emcee. Thus somebody's "designer shell" might
be unattractive like tortoise shell but that does not make that person ugly.
If beauty was defined in terms of looks, some of the world's
most "attractive" women wouldn't be still single and struggling to
attract or keep a husband. Likewise some of the most "unattractive"
women wouldn't be happily married.
It's sad that the beautiful-ugly phenomenon has been
accepted in the world of women. Those who think they are not beautiful enough
are doing everything to enhance their beauty to their detriment. In a quest for
acceptance and validation from men, they have allowed to be used anyhow anywhere
by anything.
Then most of those who think they are beautiful enough have
become inflated with pride; strutting about like peacocks, rejecting proposals
from "lesser" men only to wake up too late! Others in this category
often become too preoccupied with their "beauty" that they absolutely
forget about their brains...to their detriment.
If we want beauty, let's work hard to make the inner person
better; if we must define beauty let's define it based on what comes from
inside out, not merely on what's outside. Paradoxically, you cannot become
beautiful without first becoming U.G.L.Y., which is an acronym for "U
Gotta Love Yourself", something I learned from Ugandan rapper Abbas Amin,
who calls himself "Ugly Emcee."
