Hunting for a wife

The wisest king that lived, Solomon, said he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. No one finds without seeking, thus the quest for a wife as would bring favour, is not for the fainthearted; it can be arduous like digging for gold. A man who is ready for marriage must be like a serious hunter who won't return home without game.

The kind of marriage ordained by God

A friend of mine who got married last weekend to a Swazi beauty certainly got a better appreciation of Solomon's words when he travelled all the way to the high and rocky kingdom of Mswati III to seek her parents blessing. It followed five years of courtship before both got fully persuaded they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. 

But today most men who decide it's time they settled down make the biggest mistake of falling for eye candy. They forget that Solomon  talking of "a good wife" makes it obvious that there's the opposite number; the bad wife: insecure, a control freak, a nag, vengeful, proud, quarrelsome and quite a handful--the type whose contentions Solomon likened to "a continual dripping of rain". Basically living with her is like living in a leaking house for the rest of your life. Like most fake products, such women are often blindingly pretty and those who fall for the exterior without studying the interior begin regretting even before the honeymoon is over. 

That's why it's prudent to take your time and not let hormones and emotions override your search for a proper wife. Take your time to know that woman before you pop the big question. As a born-again Christian, I believe a woman who professes and possesses Jesus Christ as her Lord and Saviour can make a good wife. Be careful though because not every church-going, choir-singing, tithe-offering, overnight-attending, tongue- speaking lady is God-fearing. Some of them are wolves in sheep skins. If you are alert as you pursue her, you will see and hear things from her upon which you will base to take the plunge or run away before it's too later.