Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Boys to men

Today is Fathers' Day. Congratulations and happy wishes to the authentic fathers and men out there keeping it real. Being a real man is a huge responsibility that the problems of the world are linked to the men that have failed to navigate the labyrinths of manhood and settled for less. 

At a recent men's conference, we were asked how many of us were taught to be men. To my shock, no one raised his hand. Most men believe manhood revolves around positions and possessions. But according life coach Stone Kyambadde, real manhood is more of a character thing. Some men have excelled in their careers and made and made a lot of money but their wives are miserable and children stubborn because these men clueless about running a family. Even some admired rich people have not earned their wealth honestly, and thus fail the test of true manhood. 

Growing up, we learned that man must be tough and not show emotions to women. But television personality Brian Mulondo said tears won him the woman of his life—his wife. He had been chasing her for a while but she kept tossing him like a ball. In one moment of frustration, he cried and asked how long she was going to torture him. His tears opened her eyes to a side of him that melted her heart. The rest is history. 

Fathers must teach their sons from early on how to be men of courage and integrity. You may be financially poor yet raise your son to be a real man. When Malawian prodigy William Kamkwamba was collecting scrap metals to build his first windmill to bring electricity to his village, he was labelled a madman. His mother tried to stop him but his father intervened, "Leave the boy alone; let's see what he has up his sleeve." William achieved his dream, wrotea book about it that’s a New York Times bestseller. Without his father's support and encouragement, he would not be the man he is today.

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