On fatherhood

One of the easiest things to do is to make a baby. A man's seed can swim and fertilize a female egg in less than a minute. Thus fatherhood has never been about the size and length of the thing dangling between the legs, or the ability with which it performs.

Fatherhood in its authenticity is linked to the providence and security a man renders. Providing not only material but also moral things; providing the wisdom with which your family can navigate through the labyrinths of life. Setting an example through words and actions as would command the respect of your family and society; words and actions worthy of emulating. 

These two: providence and security have nothing to do with the amount of money one has on his bank account. Some men are good providers and faithful partners who have however failed to participate in the upbringing of their children because they are so busy. They go to work when their children are still sleeping and return when their children are asleep. In the end television has taken over their roles as attested by the words and conduct of their children. These children often have no motivation beyond having a good time. We studied with some at Campus; they rarely attended lectures soberly, and they hired poorer students to do course works for them. Their parents were not taking responsibility for them and the children didn't care about living responsibly. 

It's a painful disease and difficult to cure to have a father but grow up rootless like an orphan. Orphans are not only those whose parents are dead but also those whose fathers don't create one-on-one moments with them. Consequently there's a subtle rejection which these children grow up with. And as Mother Teresa said, the greatest disease is not cancer but rejection; the feeling of being unwanted and unappreciated, of being alone in a world full of people. This silent rejection is what kills motivation and suppresses talents so that children affected by it grow up without the vigour for life.